“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.”—~ Albert Einstein (via tatiannatarot)
I think what I like most about these themes that anindependentguinevere and I choose is the chance to see how we all view these words and concepts. So join in and share your perspective, if you like. We’d love it.
Focusing this week’s efforts through the lens of opportunity means I will bring myself back, time and again, to what each moment has to offer. Believing that the things I ask for show up, eventually, means that whatever’s in front of me today, right now, is a step up that ladder. How I choose to take that step is my choice for ascending, staying stagnant, or - yeesh - taking a step back down and away.
Let challenges feel like a call, let obstacles feel like training, let triumphs feel earned —- and do my best not to take any of it for granted.
“An honest bookstore would post the following sign above its ‘self-help’ section: ‘For true self-help, please visit our philosophy, literature, history and science sections, find yourself a good book, read it, and think about it.”—Roger Ebert (via observando)
“It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.”—Nicholas Sparks (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
You can stay on Anon and I will reply w/o posting your messages, ok?
Distance sucks. I tried 3,000 miles once. Yeah, didn’t work…and that was after seven years.
In my opinion, and it comes from experience, believe me, the first few days/weeks, it’s just your job to get through the day. You can’t turn off the churning in your head or the ache in your chest, but you can be kind to yourself and not expect much more than just gettin’ thru the things you need to get done.
If you follow me, you know how much yoga I do and one of the things I’ve discovered is that it always helps. I have come to teach a class when I wasn’t sure I could eek out ‘hello’ w/o bursting into tears - and then by the end, I feel like I can breathe again. You don’t have to do yoga if that’s not your thing - but get out for a walk - I mean, seriously - even if it’s just around your block. Everything feels tight and impossible if you stay in and don’t shift your perspective a bit.
And of course - employ the help around you, if you have people who can bring the right energy and come be with you while you feel blue, call them. I like to be by myself, personally…but I do get to the point that I can manage to be my soggy self around my best friends. And by the way - you’re allowed to feel soggy :(
So just start with three things: 1) patience for yourself 2) get thru your day 3) breathe different air when you can.
I'm sorry for this ask, and I'm sorry for being anonymous, because we follow each other. My girlfriend just left me for another guy, and I'm not sure what to do. I didn't know where else to turn, and you seem a very level-headed and reasonable person, so I was hoping you had some advice for somebody who is lost and struggling. I'm sorry.
No apologies, please. First of all, I’m sorry. Heartbreak is such a deep pain :( I empathize with you. I know how much it sucks.
Advice? My honest, honest, honest advice is to do your best to let your heartbreak let in light — don’t close up. This was the turning point for me - to learn to bring in light when my heart is cracking open. Still hurts, but it’s a different feeling than letting yourself be hollow.
Want to talk about it? However you like - no judgments, all compassion.
Be brave, but be soft. And thank you - for trusting me in such a meaningful way.